In the week of love, well Valentine's Day, I read an article on who should pay on a first date. A single man replied that he would always pay but would at least like to see his date reach for her purse to show willing and not presume he would pick up the bill even though he felt he should and always would.
A single woman replied that as she'd already spent a small fortune on getting her hair done, beauty treatments and an outfit for a first date she was already more out of pocket and therefore the man had better pick up the bill as there was no way she was going to spend any more on the night.
I hope this single woman's arrogant attitude doesn’t represent a large proportion of the dating population or men are in trouble and may have a good looking date but an empty bank balance from now on.
'First Date Etiquette' can seem quite complicated these days but some rules are always worth following:
1. Look Good
Grooming, for men and women, is important. This is first impressions time so make sure you and your clothes are clean and presentable. Compliments work both ways so if you too can see your date has made an effort then let them know it's appreciated.
2. Be Polite
Chivalry is attractive so gentlemen should open doors and hold her coat, etc. Think about personal space and don't be too 'touchy feely' when you first meet. Even if your date is not the one for you do remember they are still human and deserve respect if they offer you the same in return. Even if love doesn't blossom you could still have a great night with a new friend.
3. Good Conversation
Avoid religion and politics but do have some conversation ideas so you don't have uncomfortable silences. Being witty is fine, but never be cruel at someone's expense, and do laugh at your date's jokes as they are probably as nervous as you.
4. Share But Not Too Much
Dating is all about getting to know each other so while telling your date something about yourself is important don't pour out too much that will frighten them away. You may be concerned that your cousin's drug habit will never end but this is not the time to discuss it. It's good to ask each other questions but again, plan ahead and don't ask aggressively direct questions that could be considered intimidating.
5. Pay Attention
Listening is a good skill for both parties to remember. It shows you're interested and want to give your time. Switch off your phone, and don't dash off to check messages as they can all wait until after your date.
What other tips would you add to make that first date more successful?
A single woman replied that as she'd already spent a small fortune on getting her hair done, beauty treatments and an outfit for a first date she was already more out of pocket and therefore the man had better pick up the bill as there was no way she was going to spend any more on the night.
I hope this single woman's arrogant attitude doesn’t represent a large proportion of the dating population or men are in trouble and may have a good looking date but an empty bank balance from now on.
'First Date Etiquette' can seem quite complicated these days but some rules are always worth following:
1. Look Good
Grooming, for men and women, is important. This is first impressions time so make sure you and your clothes are clean and presentable. Compliments work both ways so if you too can see your date has made an effort then let them know it's appreciated.
2. Be Polite
Chivalry is attractive so gentlemen should open doors and hold her coat, etc. Think about personal space and don't be too 'touchy feely' when you first meet. Even if your date is not the one for you do remember they are still human and deserve respect if they offer you the same in return. Even if love doesn't blossom you could still have a great night with a new friend.
3. Good Conversation
Avoid religion and politics but do have some conversation ideas so you don't have uncomfortable silences. Being witty is fine, but never be cruel at someone's expense, and do laugh at your date's jokes as they are probably as nervous as you.
4. Share But Not Too Much
Dating is all about getting to know each other so while telling your date something about yourself is important don't pour out too much that will frighten them away. You may be concerned that your cousin's drug habit will never end but this is not the time to discuss it. It's good to ask each other questions but again, plan ahead and don't ask aggressively direct questions that could be considered intimidating.
5. Pay Attention
Listening is a good skill for both parties to remember. It shows you're interested and want to give your time. Switch off your phone, and don't dash off to check messages as they can all wait until after your date.
What other tips would you add to make that first date more successful?
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